February 18, 2010 in Articles by Joshua Matthews

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

When we don’t ask for anything, we usually get anything but what we wanted.  It’s the same as saying “If you don’t know where you are going, you just might get there.”  What I like about the former is it’s 1. it’s about the present moment  and 2. it involves questions.

Good questions are important. When we ask good questions of others, we demonstrate our interest in people, develop rapport, close sales deals, make our friends, family and employers happy. In other words, we create opportunities to both influence and to serve.

Good answers are less important. They help us impress on job interviews, first dates, bank loans and game shows.

Most important are the good questions we ask ourselves. These change our beliefs, our responsibilities, our perspective and our destinies.

What do I believe?  Is this belief still serving me?

What do I really want?

What’s the worst that could happen?

What’s the best?

What’s the first step?

When?